When you don’t feel the urge to fill any empty space with noise, you become more attentive to your surroundings and yourself. When you speak, be informative, truthful, relevant, clear, and fair in taking turns. Only then will you have a meaningful and helpful conversation with those around you.
Most things in life are negotiable, and it also applies to salary. The only way to have a good long-term working relationship between you and your employer is to go for a win-win. And that means negotiating fair pay.
Make fact-seeking part of your daily life. Build the habits of critical thinking and checking the data before you rush to conclusions. Stop dramatizing your worldview and see the world for what it is. Not perfect, but getting better.
Video calls can create a feeling of belonging, but they are also a significant drain on your cognitive abilities and lead to stress. Learn to switch the camera off every now and then, and don’t enforce video on from those who are not comfortable with it.
Each of us is most easily persuaded by ourselves. Listen first. Don’t overwhelm others with data. When you speak, ask lots of questions. Provide trustworthy information, and that means introducing nuance and explain that not everything is rosy.
Communication shouldn’t be efficient. It should be effective. The talking stick is an excellent exercise in both communication and mindfulness. It is inclusive, removes ego, creates respect, and leads to results.
Proactive people don’t wait indefinitely and don’t let others to ignore them. They take the initiative and get things done.
In the first article of the series, I talked about what things you need to do to enter the negotiation and be successful. Now let’s talk about the importance of understanding the person you are negotiating with. You know what… Read More ›